Settling..

So, maybe it's just me, but it feels like TONS of people are perfectly ok with settling. I'm not just talking about relationship, but with jobs, and other aspects of their life.

I can kind of understand people settling in relationship, I mean, I don't settle but I can appreciate why someone would I guess. People are more interested in immediate pleasure. I'm not just talking about sex when I say pleasure, I mean attention, connection and emotional attachment. Everybody likes having those things, and if you are without these things for a period of time (everybody has different limits) people start settling. The way I see it though, is that why settle for something now that will eventually crash and burn. Because, if you settle for some immediate 'pleasure', then chances are, you will eventually notice obvious differences and conflicts with this person. I don't know why so many people are in a hurry these days. I am not faulting anyone of my friends for having a family already, but many people seem determined to get a jump start on this process before they're ready. I have plenty of friends that have beautiful families already, and I am extremely happy for them, but it's sad to see some people get rushed into circumstances because they don't want to wait for the right person, timing, or situation. I don't know why but I always have kept extremely high standards (maybe too high), but I am kind of a romantic I guess, and I just want to find the right person for me. I have been single for around 2 years now, and I have to try extra hard not to settle at this point. The longer you go without someone in your life, the more you want someone there.

I also think that a large portion of failed marriages come from people that might have settled back in the day, or rushed into a relationship. I know there are tons of other factors that play a role in divorces, but I think people have gotten too accustomed to the idea that they can simply just divorce someone anyways, which desensitizes the entire purpose of marriage. I'm not saying I am looking to settle down and get married, I'm just saying that when I do, I will be damn sure that they are the RIGHT one, because once I am married I will be with that person for life.