Falling into a Routine

Isn't it weird how we fall into a mind-set or rhythm in life, and then time seems to fly by? It's really easy to get into a certain routine and slowly become a zombie; just going through the motions with work, relationships, etc. And when this happens, time flies... But it also seems to make us somewhat numb to things/people around us sometimes. We get used to certain things and fall victim to taking things/people for granted. 

I guess a way to combat this is take a few minutes every day to recognize our good fortune. Otherwise, it's easy to just fall into a comfort zone and neglect things. I blinked and 8 months went by, and I am in the same situation (jobless & living at home). Now, this can be a depressing time for some people. But, if I take a few minutes to think about it I can easily put a positive spin on it. For example: I get to reinforce my relationship with my parents that was tough to maintain since I was away at school the last 4 years. I have had some time to relax before my career begins, which will take up every day of my life until retirement (which will easily be 70 yrs old). Those are just 2 examples, but if we try to make a point of thinking about these things daily, they won't go by unnoticed. 

In all honesty anybody who can even read this is extremely fortunate. Not because you get to read my shitty writing, but since you obviously have a computer, internet, electricity, etc. So, we all need to learn how to appreciate the amazing fortune and people who play such large roles in our life. We don't want to become a zombie who never realizes how blessed their life actually is. 

Perspective

I know a lot of the things I talk about are random so bare with me, because I am weird.

Happiness is all relative. Is it just me or is it easier to look back on past experiences as happier times than that of the present? As I look back on times in high school and college, I have tons of amazing memories. However, it's an easy trap to fall into to just recollect all of the positive occurrences, and none of the negative. Whenever I reminisce (or whatever) over my past, my memory seems to focus strictly on the positives, while the negatives fall by the wayside. Therefore, I think it's important to put things into perspective immediately, as to not overlook positives that are in our life currently. After all, those seem to be the the memories I retain more often than not. It will be too easy to just continuously look back on the last few years of my life as the 'happier' times, even though the only reason they seem happier, is because of my perspective on things. I don't want to be someone who lives in the past, because when I'm in my 30s, I'm sure I will look back on my life now and say it was some of the best years I've ever had. By doing this, hopefully I can fully appreciate every aspect of my life presently rather than reminiscently, and also maintain a more positive outlook. 

Settling..

So, maybe it's just me, but it feels like TONS of people are perfectly ok with settling. I'm not just talking about relationship, but with jobs, and other aspects of their life.

I can kind of understand people settling in relationship, I mean, I don't settle but I can appreciate why someone would I guess. People are more interested in immediate pleasure. I'm not just talking about sex when I say pleasure, I mean attention, connection and emotional attachment. Everybody likes having those things, and if you are without these things for a period of time (everybody has different limits) people start settling. The way I see it though, is that why settle for something now that will eventually crash and burn. Because, if you settle for some immediate 'pleasure', then chances are, you will eventually notice obvious differences and conflicts with this person. I don't know why so many people are in a hurry these days. I am not faulting anyone of my friends for having a family already, but many people seem determined to get a jump start on this process before they're ready. I have plenty of friends that have beautiful families already, and I am extremely happy for them, but it's sad to see some people get rushed into circumstances because they don't want to wait for the right person, timing, or situation. I don't know why but I always have kept extremely high standards (maybe too high), but I am kind of a romantic I guess, and I just want to find the right person for me. I have been single for around 2 years now, and I have to try extra hard not to settle at this point. The longer you go without someone in your life, the more you want someone there.

I also think that a large portion of failed marriages come from people that might have settled back in the day, or rushed into a relationship. I know there are tons of other factors that play a role in divorces, but I think people have gotten too accustomed to the idea that they can simply just divorce someone anyways, which desensitizes the entire purpose of marriage. I'm not saying I am looking to settle down and get married, I'm just saying that when I do, I will be damn sure that they are the RIGHT one, because once I am married I will be with that person for life.